How An Arrest Affects Your Family
Regardless of the reasons for your arrest, the ordeal is harrowing and costly. While it might feel like you’re the only one who’s really been affected, it’s important to consider the impact it’s likely had on family and friends. Everyone deals with the news of a loved one’s arrest differently. Moving forward after an arrest involves a dedication to resolving any issues or conflicts that caused and/or resulted from it. It’ll be hard work on your part, but it’s work that pays off in the end.
Don’t Underestimate the Impact of Your Arrest on Loved Ones
There is never any question that the process of being arrested is scary and immensely stressful. With that being said, it can be hard to imagine anyone else suffering quite the way you have from the experience. The reality, though, is that you aren’t the only one to suffer. If you’re in a relationship, your partner is affected. If you have children, they are no doubt affected. For children in particular, fears of a parent being taken away and not returning home are devastating. Parents, friends, and neighbors can be affected as well, especially if they’ve had to pitch in in any way to help out financially or address other matters that need tending to in your absence. Saying sorry or that it wasn’t your fault aren’t enough to address the deeper matters here.
Highlighted here are a few of the ways your relationships can suffer and ideas for what you can do to make things right.
Restore Broken Trust
If your arrest was a result of something you’ve been in trouble with before, you know that broken trust is going to be one of the first things you’ll have to deal with. Even if your arrest was for something minor, relationships are shaken. Your partner, for example, may struggle to trust that you won’t get into trouble again. Children, on the other hand, may not trust that you’ll always be there for them. Parents and friends may be disappointed and find it hard to trust that you’re doing everything you can to walk a straight line.
Feeling sorry for yourself or playing the blame game is not the way out of this situation. Being open and honest, however, and acknowledging how your arrest has affected everyone will help. It’s not about whether your arrest was justified or not; it’s about dealing effectively with the aftermath of an unfortunate circumstance.
If you want to regain the trust of those around you, put your best food forward and seek help for yourself. If an underlying condition like addiction or mental illness (these two often go hand in hand) are a factor of your arrest, get into counseling or a rehabilitation program. Gaining back trust isn’t something anyone else can do for you; you have to do it yourself. If you’ve been arrested more than once, this is especially important. A history of repeat arrests can really make it a challenge for friends and family to trust you in the future.
For your partner and/or children, counseling and therapy may be necessary as well, to work through fears and trust issues. Learning different techniques for communicating effectively, handling stress, and tips to build trust are paramount.
Work Through Resentment
If your arrest resulted in a significant time away from your family, you can expect to come home to resentment issues. In regards to childcare and finances in particular, partners who’ve had to bear the brunt of figuring things out and carrying the weight on their own, resentment is probably going to rear it’s ugly head.
The best thing you can do here is be prepared for it. Again, regardless of your guilt or innocence, your arrest and time away put the lives of others on hold. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you, but the unexpected strain inevitably causes feelings of resentment, even in otherwise healthy relationships.
Being honest is key. You can’t change the past, but you can certainly work towards the goal of restoration and healing the wounds caused by resentment. Seek help from a counselor or therapist, especially if communicating effectively is an issue.
Pay It Back
If you’ve been bailed out of jail, you owe somebody more than just an apology; you owe them money. Even though it was probably one of the hardest phone calls you’ve ever had to make, if someone went to the effort and expense to get you out of jail, paying them back is vital in warding off distrust and resentment. Coming up with the money to bail a loved one out of jail isn’t an easy task and can have a detrimental affect on their financial well being.
This is where 8-Ball Bail Bonds can help.
With credit and payment options, we can help get you the money you need to get out of jail quickly and help you to pay the money back. Located in downtown Las Vegas, we are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to help bail you out and to allow easy access for making payments.
We know how hard the toll an arrest can take on everyone, that’s why we’re here to help.
For more information about how we can help, contact us.